The Women’s Creed

MARY MENOPAUSE “ julia’s alter ego”

Well girls here I am with a few pointers that I hope you will take from someone who has been there. At age 25 I went through surgical menopause due to endometriosis. And let me tell you if there was a bottom of the Well, I was sitting in it for a long time due to wrong information and medical treatment. I had Panic Attacks, Moods Swings, Depression you name it and it was on the menu. I put together a few thoughts that I felt might help you and give you insight as to some of the things that we all need to do before we jump into anything that we no nothing about.

I was brought up in the age that the Doctors and Priests were God. Well I found out they weren’t and I paid a dear price. Thirteen years of my life was just totally nuts. I thank my family, friends for their support and putting up with my nonsense for all those years and nonsense is putting it mildly. After much research and hard work I found some doctors who realized I was not nuts or crazy but just needed hormonal replacement therapy. It didn’t take the monkeys off my back as far as the panic and depression but I worked on them and eventually they all disappeared. My tenacity, good sense of humor and life forced me to take back control of my life. I needed to bring it back to the place it was prior to all the insanity which was when they started screwing around with my ovaries. Just those few things helped me crawl out of the darkness and fear I was in for so many years.

I started to believe in myself and that no one was taken my life away I had to be the one to take back that control. It was not easy, God knows and today I still fight with some of the demons from the past. But I know who they are and know how to deal with them. Overall I live a productive life and look forward to each day the sun rises. The covers are burnt, the house is clean and I think my husband understands what I went through with no judgment on his part.

The below CREED is just a little jip sheet and hopefully some ideas and thoughts as to how to approach the seeking out of professional help while going through this period (excuse the pun) in this time of your lives.

THE WOMEN’S CREED FOR PERI OR MENOPAUSAL WOMEN

1. Remember you’re the customer to the Doctor
2. Ask your doctor to give you an FSH blood test, this test will determine where you are on the scale of whether to be placed on hormone replacement therapy or not. It is still your choice regardless of the results.
3. Educate yourself about your body and your mind
4. Don’t let anyone tell you your NUTS or some Hypochondriac
5. Listen to your body it knows what it is telling you
6. Know THYSELF – Your ID – Your Superego and Your Ego, without all three in harmony you cannot be a complete happy person. (And that is not an easy task)
7. Use the library or the internet it has a wealth of information and websites that can help you with whatever questions or needs you want to know about. It is a great tool. Not God just a tool to help you assess your situation.
8. Invite your husband/boyfriend or life partner into your problems. You would be surprised how responsive they can be but you need to educate them also so that they can be there for you when you need them.
9. Talk to friends, family members or peers at work that you feel comfortable with and see if they have suggestions on a good doctor. Don’t take just anyone out of your companies’ healthcare book. That is you are fortunate to have health insurance. Even if you do not and have access to hospitals they will assist, don’t just settle. Ask and inquire the best information for your needs. You want someone who knows cares and understands what is going on with you. Believe it or not people do care and do not like to see someone suffer. I know in this crazy world today we think people do not care. Try them out and you will be pleasantly surprised how many nice people really are out there.
10. BELIEIVE IN YOUSELF – you can make it as long as you believe in yourself. That is the most powerful tool you have. Your inner strength and will power. So take it to the LIMIT, and GOOD LUCK.

Mary, “alias julia”